Free Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert J. Rubel

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about the slave.
    Reactance, unaddressed, is likely, at some point, to become
resistance. Resistance occurs when the submissive/slave
resists Master's dominance - sometimes unconsciously. Now, you've got a problem. This is likely to be a substantial signal
that something fundamental is amiss. This requires some careful
probing and questioning. In my experience, when a slave gets
to the point of demonstrating resistance, Master is being inattentive - Master is not hearing/seeing/feeling the slave's signals
for help/relief on some front. Again, my continual theme: you
need outstanding listening skills and an appreciation of the world
through the slave's eyes.

    How do you execute the responsibility of your command?
    How do you demonstrate your Mastery (walk the talk) with integrity and honor?
    This is another Master Jack McGeorge question and it's a window into another dimension - the dimension of personal mastery.
Being a list kind of guy, I'm going to give my flavor of answer with
a number of short topics that are augmented with bulleted notes.
By the way, this presumes that you are living an exemplary values-centered life of honesty and integrity. This list is more about
executing your management responsibilities in an M/s relationship.
    Thinking of Yourself as a Business Leader
    As Master, you're manager. a You're managing a piece of very
pricey property - a person. That calls for use of some rather
traditional management techniques. One technique involves
keeping your eye on the ball, as it were.
    A good manager asks the following questions every three
months:
    • What are my objectives for the next 90 days?
    0 What are my plans, priorities and hopes?
    • How do I go about achieving them?

    To avoid drifting through life, you might consider developing short
review sessions every quarter and checking in with your slave.
(Personally, I used to have annual planning meetings with my
first wife. My father always found this astonishing.) Are you both
on the same page? Are you doing what you need to do to reach
your stated goals?
    Here is a list of the more prominent traits of successful
leaders. Successful leaders...
    • Observe with application (they act on their observations).
    • Take copious notes.
    • Know how to listen well; know how to distinguish
between background "chatter" and important issues;
know how to ask clear, courteous and incisive questions.
    • Welcome ideas.
    • Value time highly.
    • Set goals as a matter of routine.
    • Try to understand a situation before commenting on it;
they don't jump to conclusions.
    • Always anticipate achievement.
    • Know how to organize their approach to challenges;
[This list to this point is attributed variously to Whitt N.
Schultz and to H. Gordon Selfridge, and I've added
some commentary].
    • Have a five-year plan for success.
    • Realize that they, not others, ultimately control their
own success.
    • Brainstorm alternatives to tough decisions (use consensus management techniques - for more information Google "consensus management").
    • Celebrate their achievements; shrug off their setbacks.
    • Develop and use a support network.
    0 Always stand for integrity.

    • Remind themselves that every day is a new opportunity.
    • Keep themselves in top physical condition.
    • Always remain open to learning new ideas [The lower
part of the list is adapted from Bob Adams, Streetwise
Business Tips. Adams Media Corp.].
    Applying this last section to your M/s lifestyle, you might consider
taking each of these bullet points and opening it up. Tease out
the implications of each bullet for your personal situation. For
example, take the bullet that reads: "Always anticipate achievement." What can this mean in your world? How well do you support your slave, emotionally? Are you always catching him/her
doing something right? Do you bring home occasional treats/
gifts of love? Do you know your slave's favorite things - and
do you